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You Can Understand the Abuse and Still Miss Them
One of the most frustrating parts of healing is realizing that insight doesn’t always change how you feel.
You can understand that what happened was abuse. You can name the manipulation. You can see the patterns clearly now. You can know that leaving was the right choice.
And still, you miss them.

April Goff
Jan 223 min read


Why Do I Feel Worse After I Am Finally Safe?
A lot of people expect safety to feel like relief. They imagine that once the danger is gone, once the relationship ends, once the environment changes, their body will finally exhale. That they’ll sleep better. That their anxiety will quiet. That healing will feel like forward movement. And then safety arrives, and everything gets worse. More panic. More intrusive thoughts. More grief. More exhaustion. Sometimes more flashbacks. Sometimes emotions that feel completely disprop

April Goff
Jan 153 min read


Learning to Sit with Your Feelings When Someone Else Needs Space
When someone you love is upset, whether with you or about something else, it can feel almost unbearable to sit in that tension. The...

April Goff
Jan 82 min read


It’s Okay If This Year Didn’t Go As Planned
As the year comes to a close, it’s easy to look back at all the goals you set in January and feel like you’ve failed if you didn’t reach...

April Goff
Dec 31, 20252 min read


When Healing Feels Lonely (Holiday Edition)
Sometimes the hardest part of the holidays isn’t what’s happening. It’s what isn’t. The empty chair at the table. The traditions that no longer feel the same. The absence of someone you wish could be there.
The holidays are supposed to bring people together, but when you’re grieving, estranged, or protecting yourself from unsafe spaces, the season can highlight loneliness in ways that feel especially sharp.

April Goff
Dec 25, 20252 min read
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