Trauma Survivors Blog

When people talk about “splitting” in BPD or trauma recovery, they usually mean seeing other people in extremes like all good or all bad, safe or unsafe. But what doesn’t get talked about enough is how often we turn that same harsh lens inward.

Not all healing is loud. Not every step forward is a social media post, a big announcement, or a celebration with friends. Sometimes, healing happens quietly, in the privacy of your own heart.

Sending that impulsive text can sometimes make things harder. Especially if you don’t get the response you were hoping for. That’s where the art of pausing comes in.

You’ve worked hard to get to a place where life feels… okay. Maybe things are finally settling down, or your relationships are steady, or your day-to-day isn’t one big crisis anymore. And yet, instead of relaxing into it, you feel uneasy. Like you’re waiting for something bad to happen. Like the quiet is just the setup for the next storm. If this sounds familiar, you’re not broken.

It’s not fair that you have to heal from things you didn’t choose. And it’s okay to feel that.