Trauma Survivors Blog

When people talk about “splitting” in BPD or trauma recovery, they usually mean seeing other people in extremes like all good or all bad, safe or unsafe. But what doesn’t get talked about enough is how often we turn that same harsh lens inward.

You’ve worked hard to get to a place where life feels… okay. Maybe things are finally settling down, or your relationships are steady, or your day-to-day isn’t one big crisis anymore. And yet, instead of relaxing into it, you feel uneasy. Like you’re waiting for something bad to happen. Like the quiet is just the setup for the next storm. If this sounds familiar, you’re not broken.

“I’m too much.” If you’ve ever had this thought, you’re not alone. This post explores why the “too much” spiral happens and how to climb out without shaming yourself for being human.

Ever thought, ‘My partner deserves better than me’? You’re not alone. Here’s how to handle those spirals with self-compassion, reality checks, and respect for your partner’s choice to love you.

I want to start off by saying that this post might apply to any number of disorders but I just speak from someone who felt this way when...