Healing

It’s okay if you thought you were over it but it hits you all over again.

It’s okay to fall apart even after you thought you had it under control.

You are not weak. Healing is messy. And there is no timeline for healing.

Healing Has No Rulebook

There is no single “right way” to heal from trauma. Everyone’s trauma is different, and so is everyone’s response. What helps one person might not help another, and that’s normal.

Healing isn’t linear. Some days will feel easier; others will feel like setbacks. You might go weeks feeling strong and then suddenly be triggered again. Setbacks don’t mean you’re failing. They’re a natural part of recovery. Healing doesn’t mean you’ll never feel pain again. It means the trauma will no longer control your life or overwhelm you all the time. For many, healing is a lifelong process, but it does get easier.

There’s No Timeline

Some people reclaim their lives within a year. Others may struggle for decades. There is no expiration date on trauma or healing.

Healing quickly doesn’t mean your trauma “wasn’t that bad.”
Struggling for a long time doesn’t mean you should “just get over it.”

Your journey is your own, and it is valid.

Forgiveness Isn’t Required

Many people believe forgiveness is a necessary step in healing but that’s not true for everyone.

For some, forgiveness helps release bitterness and move forward.
For others, forgiving too soon can invalidate their pain and stop them from truly processing what happened.

Both choices are valid. Your healing does not depend on forgiving someone who hurt you.

Beware of Toxic Positivity

Toxic positivity is when people try to force you to see the “bright side” of everything, even your trauma.

For some, finding silver linings is empowering.
For others, hearing “everything happens for a reason” or “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” is invalidating and painful.

It’s okay to reject platitudes. It’s okay to say, “This hurt, and I didn’t deserve it.” You’re allowed to set boundaries and protect your healing process.