Myths about Healing
“People can’t have a happy life after trauma.”
False. Many trauma survivors go on to live full, joyful lives. Life may not return to how it was before, but with support, healing, and self-compassion, people often build meaningful and fulfilling futures.
“Talking about trauma is the best (or only) way to heal.”
False. Talking can help, but forcing it before someone is ready can harm more than help. Healing is personal—some people never want to share their trauma, and that’s okay. There’s no single “right way” to heal.
“Love can heal someone’s trauma.”
False. Support and care are helpful, but love alone can’t “fix” trauma. Healing is an internal process, and expecting love to be enough can hurt both you and the survivor.
“Time heals all trauma.”
True and false. Some trauma fades over time, but most require active coping and processing. Support—whether self-guided, peer-based, or professional—can make healing smoother.
“Only weak people need help healing.”
False. Seeking help is a strength. Trauma healing is a skill, not a test of willpower, and even the strongest people benefit from guidance and tools.