Frequently Asked Questions - Abuse Trauma
Sometimes I feel like I am missing and craving abuse. Does that mean I wanted it?
There are lots of reasons abuse survivors might crave further abuse, which are rooted in both biology and psychology. Please see this page for more information.
I love my abuser and cannot leave/I miss my abuser. What's wrong with me?
There is nothing wrong with you. A lot of survivors of abuse end up in trauma bonds. This page has a lot of information.
Why am I getting worse after leaving my abusive situation?
In a lot of cases, people do not feel the full effects of the abuse they are experiencing because their brain is doing its best to protect them. When we leave abusive situations, we may begin to process the events more and feel the full effects now that it's safe to do so. This can occur even years after the fact.